Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Grateful Dead 1988 Spring Tour



Getting concert tickets before the internet was around was not always an easy prospect, especially if you wanted to get tickets for an out-of-town show.  The Grateful Dead tried to make it easier for their fans however by selling a large portion of the tickets by themselves directly to the fans.  After listening to the Grateful Dead hotline for ’88 Spring tour info, carefully filling out all the 3x5 index cards with separate envelopes and post-office money orders for each city, we eagerly waited a few weeks until all of our tickets arrived.  My girlfriend Lona and I were going to six shows and we could not be more excited!  Then after the mail-order was over we got word that the Dead had added a 3rd show to Chicago, so I quickly called the ticket office down there and got seats for that show as well.  I had only seen the Dead 13 times prior to this so adding 7 more shows was huge and we were looking forward to the road trip.  We would see the first four shows of the tour and the last three.

3/24/88  The Omni - Atlanta, GA
3/26/88  Hampton Coliseum - Hampton, VA
3/27/88  Hampton Coliseum - Hampton, VA
3/28/88  Hampton Coliseum - Hampton, VA
4/13/88  Rosemont Horizon - Chicago, IL
4/14/88  Rosemont Horizon - Chicago, IL
4/15/88  Rosemont Horizon - Chicago, IL

I was about to turn 22 years old, in my 4th year of college in Minneapolis, and spring break was the week of Monday March 21st through Friday the 25th.  With the first show on the tour being Thursday the 24th in Atlanta we had a few days to do whatever we wanted before then.  So Lona and I packed up my 1977 Toyota Celica that I had recently bought for $220 and decided to drive down to New Orleans for a couple of days before heading over to Atlanta to start the tour.

We left Minneapolis on March 21st and arrived in Louisiana on the evening of the 22nd.  We had stopped somewhere on the way to buy a large grocery bag full of fireworks, as they were illegal in Minnesota and it seemed like a good idea at the time.  After two long days on the road we decided to camp at Fontainebleu State Park on the north shore of Lake Pontchartrain.  We got up the next morning on the 23rd and got on the crazy long Causeway Bridge across the lake down to New Orleans.  We knew absolutely nothing about New Orleans other than its reputation as a fun party-town, so being the good young partying tourists that we were we headed straight to Bourbon Street in the French Quarter.

We wandered around, people-watched, bought some souvenirs, had a few drinks and marveled at the fact that we could just hang out in public with alcohol in hand…we were in heaven!  We decided to get some po-boys for lunch and I got something different like alligator while Lona got something normal like ham.  I loved mine and she hated hers.  We spent the afternoon watching live music while sipping Hurricanes and then we headed back to the campground.  We stopped at a liquor store on the way for some wine.  I ended up talking to the friendly owner for awhile and for some reason he gave me a free large beer.  We went to bed fairly early, excited to be seeing the Dead the next day in Atlanta!  Well rested and awake with the sun, I noticed a small blob stuck to the outside of our tent.  I got up to pee and it turned out to be a sweet little green tree-frog.

We packed up and drove the 6 ½ hours to Atlanta, arriving on the afternoon of the 24th.  It was total chaos downtown, so we found what looked like a nice and somewhat secluded street to park behind The Omni arena where we would sleep later.  It was a fantastic show with the ‘Looks Like Rain’ and its trippy rain/thunder sound effects being my highlight.  After the show we made our way through the sea of hippies and eventually found our car down a dark lonely street…the area looked completely different in the middle of the night from the way it did in the bright afternoon sunlight.  We got in the car, locked the doors, leaned our seats back and hunkered down for a restless night of sleep in downtown Atlanta.

We got up the next morning on the 25th with a day off from the Dead and started our 9 hour drive up to Hampton, VA.  That evening during a stop for gas I noticed a huge wall of 6-packs stacked along the back of the gas-station.  Upon closer inspection it was a clearance sale on Dixie Beer…$1 per 6-pack!  Being somewhat low on money I decided to gamble and spend most of the rest of our money on beer.  We could sell it in the parking lot at Hampton!  The look on Lana’s face when she caught sight of me wheeling the first of several dollies full of beer out to the car was priceless.  I bought almost every 6-pack they had and filled every square inch of our car with beer.

An hour later we pulled our weighted-down car into a gas station in Virginia Beach for cheap food and directions.  As I was about to go in I held the door open for a guy coming out and it happened to be our friend Joel Ruthin from Minneapolis!  He was on tour selling tee-shirts and it was nice seeing a familiar face on the road.  He told us about a campground that he and some other Minneapolis friends were staying at and we told him we would catch him there later.  We did not find the campground that night so we slept in our car at a rest stop, ready for our 3-night run of shows in the awesome Hampton Coliseum.

We got up the morning of the March 26th, filled our cooler with fresh ice and headed over to the Coliseum to begin my new profession as a beer vendor.  The going rate for beer those days was usually $1 for domestic beers and $2 for imports.  I decided to undercut everybody in the lot and sell my beer for 50 cents apiece.  So I put a cardboard sign on my cooler, cracked a beer and kicked back for a few minutes.  First one person came by, then another and another and another…word got out that some dude was selling beers for 50 cents!  Before long I had a line at my cooler.  I could not keep the cooler full because they would get bought as soon as I put them in there.  I put a 4-can per person limit on the beer but within a couple hours I had sold out.  I made a few friends, made a ton of Deadheads happy and I tripled my money.

Wandering around the lot we had run into our friends Joel and Mark Smith and Christy Russell from Minneapolis.  Christy had a great homemade sign to help her find tickets, and it worked.  It was a fun day but by the end of the afternoon I was a tad drunk on Dixie and it was time to turn our attention to the real reason we were there…to see our 15th Grateful Dead show!  The show in Atlanta two nights ago to start the tour was smoking and we were excited to see what Hampton would bring.  Lona had never taken acid before and decided it was finally time to give it a try.  What better place than at a Grateful Dead concert in the hallowed grounds of the Hampton Coliseum.  The Coliseum was like the east coast version of the Oakland Coliseum in that it was all general admission seating and the shows there were usually great.

So we dosed about an hour before the show and headed in to find a spot.  As would become our norm in the years to come in Oakland, we picked out a nice spot in the lower level, side stage on Jerry’s side.  It was a very good, long show that included a humorous attempt at Bob Marley’s ‘Stir It Up’ early in the 1st set.  It took a few seconds to figure out what the heck they were doing but when we figured it out the crowd roared and reacted in kind with everyone lighting up.  Lona was a little nervous tripping but I helped her through it and we had fun at the show.  The next step was to try and safely get to the campground that our Minnesota friends were staying at.

After finding Joel’s car earlier that day he said we could follow him to the campground, but that was easier said than done.  It was pouring rain out and there were a bunch of cops on horses galloping around the lot yelling at everyone and telling them to get the f*ck out of there.  Normally we would have either slept in the car or at least waited for the acid to calm down a bit but the cops left us no choice, we had to go.  It was extremely traumatic trying to stay right behind Joel and not lose him in the sea of merging cars in the blinding rain while tripping and being yelled at by the scary horse-cops.

I stuck right behind Joel hoping not to run into him, but eventually we made it out of the lot and 15 minutes later we were at the camp ground…huge sigh of relief!  The rain had stopped but everything was soaked so we decided to forgo setting up our tent in the mud and just sleep in the car that night.  We were still feeling the acid and could not sleep yet so we had a few beers with our friends, and then I remembered the fireworks.  Fun!  So I grabbed a pack of bottle rockets out of the grocery bag, pulled one rocket out of the pack, carefully placed it in the muddy ground, lit the fuse and backed away. 

The ground was so muddy though that as soon as I backed away from it the rocket began to lean and fall over.  Before I could do anything about it, it shot off horizontally across the campground about 5 feet off the ground.  I watched in horror as it streaked away, heading right for a cop car about 200 feet away that was slowly patrolling the grounds.  ‘No way…no way…please don’t do this’ I thought…but sure enough it exploded right on the windshield of the cop.  His driver window was open and I could hear him scream.

Holy f*cking sh*t.  I had no idea what was going to happen next but I knew it could not be good.  I did not want to go to jail, especially down south 1,000 miles from home in the middle of the night while tripping.  I also did not want to lose my fireworks so I quickly put the full grocery bag in the back seat of my car, covered it with a blanket, and then put the small pack of bottle rockets on top of my car in plain view.  After a few seconds of shock the cop figured out where the rocket had come from and raced his car over to mine with the cherries blazing.  He was large, much older than us, and oh so angry.

I did not try to hide the fact that I was the guilty one as I just stood there saying:  “I’m sorry!  I’m sorry!” over and over again.  I was hoping he would pity me as I tried to look as clueless and pathetic as I possibly could.  He jumped out of his car, ran over to me, lowered his face down to mine and yelled:  “I don’t how they operate wherever you come from, but here in Virginia we do not try to blow up police officers!”  He asked me where the rest of my fireworks were and I pointed to the single pack of bottle rockets on the roof of my car. 

With a big swipe of his meaty paw he grabbed them off the car and thrust them onto my chest.  “Drop these into the mud!  Now!!”  After doing so he instructed me to stomp on them and grind them into the muck.  I did so, trying to look very disappointed like he was somehow hurting me in order to give him some satisfaction so he would leave.  It must have worked because he told me that I hoped I learned my lesson and he triumphantly drove off.  As soon as he got out of sight I chuckled with relief as I packed away the rest of the fireworks deep in my car.

The next two shows in Hampton were just awesome, with the highlights in night two being the debut of ‘Ballad of a Thin Man’, the rare ‘To Lay Me Down’ and the only ‘So What’ ever.  The whole 2nd set was just killer.  The third night was an average setlist, but played extremely well with a crazy spooky ‘The Other One’ out of ‘Space’.  We loved Hampton, but it was time to go back to school for a couple weeks.  We were all packed and ready to go after the last show but it turned out that Mark and Christy needed a ride back to Minneapolis because their ride there was Joel and he had decided to head on up the coast for the rest of the tour.  So we crammed as much of their stuff into our car as we could and took off.  I was already behind in school as I would miss the first two days of the new quarter, so we drove straight through only stopping for gas.

After two weeks of college we packed the car up again and hit the road for three more shows in Chicago at the Rosemont Horizon.  The first night was okay, night two was better, and night three was the gem.  On night three they opened the first set with a surprising ‘Scarlet>Fire’ and it was onwards and upwards from there.  So much fun, and I remember thinking how glad I was that they had added that third show.  A couple parking lot notes.  As I had written about in an earlier blog (1/27/12 – ‘I’ve Been On Fire Three Times’), one afternoon while passing a bowl out in the parking lot an ember had blown into the loose sleeve of my Guatemalan poncho.  Without realizing it, it smoldered there for awhile before coming to life and someone had to mention to me that “Hey man, your arm is on fire.”

Another tidbit was the fact that before we had left for New Orleans three weeks earlier I had stuffed all of my tax forms in my car’s glove compartment with the intent of doing them on the road.  I of course completely forgot all about them until the mushrooms had started kicking in on the afternoon of the last day of the tour…April 15th.  In my giggly state I managed to do my taxes and then wandered around for an hour trying to find a place to mail them.  I finally succeeded, went into Rosemont for a killer show and just like that Spring Tour ’88 was over.  It’s always a bit sad going home at the end of tour, but no matter…we already had plans for an epic Summer Tour ’88 just two short months away with 8 more shows to be seen!  You can read about the near-tragic end to that trip in my 5/11/12 blog entry ‘Crossing Into Canada’.

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Stella Blue


Last Saturday we suffered a terrible loss in our Minneapolis music/friendship community when our friend Stella Blue left us suddenly…a sweet, kind, peaceful, music-loving being.  I unfortunately did not know Stella as well as I should and now I of course regret that.  I would see her at all the shows, we talked now and then and we had tons of mutual friends, but we never hung out a lot.  She was at my after-show hotel party last Halloween and we had a great time then.  Also that night she left her camera and some other items in my room so she came to my work a few days later to get her stuff.  She gave me a big hug and as always she just oozed sweetness and kindness.  As she drove away I remember wondering why do I not know this person better.  She is obviously a really good person.
 
As usual Stella went out last Friday night to see music along with a lot of our friends.  She then went home and never woke up.  She was found Saturday afternoon and it was quickly all over Facebook…everyone in shock and disbelief.  Then we had the sad/happy task of going to see our friends the 'New Orleans Suspects' that night at Bunkers.  Stella of course had a ticket and would have been at the show.  When I got to the venue I was not using the ‘+1’ that was on the guest list next to my name so I had the doorman write in ‘Stella Blue’.  Inside some people did not even know yet, and the rest were just walking around kind of dazed.
 
The first thing I did was tell Mitch I loved him…and Ted Booker, Freak, B-Dog, Mike, Alli, Coach, Pam, Kari…anyone I could get my hands on.  Besides the obvious sadness vibe floating around, there was also a total love vibe going around as well.  With the sudden instant departure of one us, it gave us all that creepy feeling knowing that it could all be over for any one of us, at any time.  So everyone was hugging and telling each other how much we loved them…a total peaceful love-thing happening that Stella would have loved.  It was weird though…wherever I was in the venue throughout the evening I kept seeing Stella out of the corner of my eye…she was definitely there that night.
 
Before the show the band decided to learn and play the Grateful Dead song ‘Stella Blue’.  It was cool and sweet seeing them with their guitars working out the chord changes and learning the song on the spot.  They played it midway through the first set and it was beautiful.
 
One funny thing did happen that night between me and my friend Nancy Osbourne from Fargo.  She is a hot brunette, cool as hell, and the only girl I know who loves Black Sabbath almost as much as I do.  We have been friends for decades and we always mess with each other.  Nancy had been out to dinner and thus got to the show later than me and I hadn’t seen her since she’d been in town.  The first set was starting before I finally saw her in the corner sort of leaning up against her boyfriend who was on a bar-stool.  So I came up next to her and tapped her shoulder…nothing.  Then I flicked her hair…nothing.  She was just staring straight ahead at the stage.  Then I realized that she thought the tapping/flicking was from her boyfriend, not the person standing next to her.  So with the power of that knowledge I started stroking her hair, caressing her face, tucking her hair behind her ears…still nothing.
 
The boyfriend who I do not know very well was staring at me like:  “What the f*ck is this motherf*cker doing?”  But I ignored him and moved down to Nancy’s neck, shoulders and upper chest.  She and I are close enough that it would not have been a big deal, but I wasn’t sure if I should actually get too near her boobs without risking her boyfriend becoming completely unglued so I refrained.  By now the boyfriend’s eyes were as big as saucers and this went on for several minutes until she suddenly turned slightly and sees me standing there smiling.  She did a quick double-take…looked at me, then back at her boyfriend, and then me…and then she collapsed on the ground laughing.  It was awesome…the whole time I was messing with her she thought it was her dude and we laughed about it for the rest of the night.
 
Anyways, it was a bittersweet night.  Great music and great friends, minus a few.  As our wide crew of friends gets older I suppose this will be become more and more common as we take turns leaving this earth and heading for whatever is next.  Karl Bremer, Paul T., Eric Vandercar, Matt Carlin, Pizza-Jimmy, Ricky ‘Sexual Chocolate’ Smith, Tom Goodspeed, Glenn Kamrath, Kevin Santos…these were all hard to accept and Stella is one more.  All we can do is enjoy every single day, never “kill” time, love our friends and family and appreciate everything we have.
 
Stella Blue
 
(Words by Robert Hunter; music by Jerry Garcia)
 
All the years combine, they melt into a dream,
A broken angel sings from a guitar.
In the end there's just a song comes cryin' up the night
Thru all the broken dreams and vanished years.
Stella blue. Stella blue.

When all the cards are down, there's nothing left to see,
There's just the pavement left and broken dreams.

In the end there's still that song comes cryin' like the wind.
Down every lonely street that's ever been
Stella blue. Stella blue.

I've stayed in every blue-light cheap hotel, can't win for trying.
Dust off those rusty strings just one more time,
Gonna make them shine, shine.

It all rolls into one and nothing comes for free,
There's nothing you can hold, for very long.
And when you hear that song come crying like the wind,
It seems like all this life was just a dream.
Stella blue. Stella blue.
 

Friday, January 20, 2017

Another Good Year In Music (2016)

(Black Sabbath @ Target Center 1/25/16)

(Dead & Company @ Alpine Valley 7/9/16)


Well 2016 is over with (thank god), 2017 is under way and I just went to my first concert of the year last weekend.  It is time to look back at my 2016 calendar and go over all the shows I went to last year…see what kind of a year it was for concerts.
 
2016 started off strong with a trip to New Orleans to see our beloved Radiators for their annual reunion shows at our beloved Tipitinas.  I have seen the Radiators far more than any other band, and I love and miss them every day.  Tons of Minnesota friends made the trek down to the other end of the Mississippi River and it was an incredibly fun weekend.  I am bummed that I had to miss out on 2017’s reunion shows last weekend, but I will be back down there next  year.
 
Then it was back home for a bittersweet concert with Black Sabbath on their ‘The End’ tour.  It was a great show with Ozzy’s voice still strong and foreboding, Tony Iommi’s classic chunky metal riffs piercing my soul, and Geezer Butler’s evil bass shaking my organs loose and standing my hairs on end…but it was also sad bidding farewell to my all-time favorite metal band…the guys who started it all.
 
Looking over the list, there was not a bad show in the bunch except maybe the Prince tribute show.  I am not a Prince fan and would not have gone except my friend Penny McCartney flew in from Boulder to go so I went too.  The reason I missed the boat on the whole Prince phenomenon was because when I first moved to Minneapolis from Wisconsin in 1984 my roommate got to the dorm room before me and sort of by default owned the room/stereo.  I was into high school metal like Van Halen/Judas Priest/Scorpions and had never even heard of Prince.  This guy had Prince posters covering every square inch of the walls and blared Prince music non-stop 24/7.  Within hours of moving to Minnesota I hated Prince and I never got over it.  The tribute concert was long (we left early), not well produced and an amateurish disappointment.
 
Other than that the year had a lot of highlights and incredible concerts, but my favorite show was probably Dead & Company…partly because it contained 3/6ths of my all-time favorite band, and partly because it was at Alpine Valley…hallowed grounds.  I had not been there in almost 20 years and it was like seeing a long-lost friend or putting on an old pair of comfortable jeans.  I grew up a 20-minute drive from Alpine Valley and saw countless incredible concerts there in high school (AC/DC, Aerosmith, Deep Purple, Dio, Scorpions, Triumph, etc…) not to mention 14 Grateful Dead shows while in college.
 
On the drive from my hotel to Alpine Valley a strong sense déjà vu began setting in, and then pulling into the lot I got the biggest smile on my face that I could not get rid of if I wanted to…I was home again.  We found a spot fairly close to the front on the left side of the main road and set up camp.  It was just like old times…half-naked hippies playing Frisbee, hacky sack, drinking beers, passing joints, eating parking lot food, selling tee-shirts.  I ran into lots of friends and it was like going back thirty years to the mid-80’s.  Same good people and same good vibes everywhere.  And the concert was awesome too…this latest post-Jerry incarnation of the Dead is by far my favorite.  I am looking forward to seeing them again this summer, but I wish it was at Alpine Valley instead of Wrigley Field.
 
Another killer show was the Sammy Hagar concert.  A cool neighbor of mine had two VIP tickets ($150/each) and he could not go so he just gave them to me.  So my buddy Mitch and I used them, which got us right up to the stage, private bar/bathrooms and free food.  Before the show Mitch was hanging outside with our friend Thor Ekblom, so I went in to the Wayzata Beach VIP club to get some dinner and drinks.  There were a lot of rich yacht-type people in the swanky club.  I had a table all to myself and an incredibly nice, well-dressed couple named Mike and Wendy asked to sit at my table.  I chatted them up amicably and before long they were buying me drinks and laughing and I think we became friends…which is awesome because the guy is very connected in the musical world.  Mostly 80’s bands that I do not care much about like Survivor and .38 Special and Toto, but he also was friends with Bill Graham and is a Radiators fan.  So anyways, after trading stories and laughing it up for awhile he gave me his card and told me to call him anytime if I needed anything.  I gave him my card (Sneaky Sweets blog card) and he said we need to stay in touch, which we did for awhile by email.
 
The show itself was a blast.  Don Felder’s long Eagles set was awesome, but almost too awesome…was he lip synching?  I hope not.  But Sammy…holy moly he rocked out and I loved it.  I used to be pissed at him for daring to replace David Lee Roth in Van Halen, but now I dig him.  And the band was loose and tight…what a great lineup with Michael Anthony from Van Halen on bass and Jason Bonham of Zeppelin heritage on drums.  Sammy and Michael were drinking plenty of tequila onstage and just having a blast.  ‘When The Levee Breaks’ was incredible, and he played some old Montrose stuff which was cool.  I am glad I finally got to see Sammy.  It was a killer night, and I even got an electric glo-light sword that Sammy was playing with onstage which I gave to my son Jake.
 
Special mention goes to AC/DC with Angus and Brian still rocking hard but hopefully not for the last time, to Springsteen for always putting on a great epic show, to The Who, McCartney and Paul Simon for proving that old guys can still bring it at a high level, to Stevie Nicks and Chrissie Hynde for proving that old girls can still bring it at a high level, and to the two house parties with the NOLA Suspects and Raw Oyster Cult…Ted Booker always knows how to throw a killer party.
 
Anyways, here is what I managed to see last year:
 
1/15 & 1/16/16 – The Radiators @ Tipitinas – New Orleans, LA
1/25/16 – Black Sabbath @ Target Center – Minneapolis, MN
1/29/16 – Blue Oyster Cult/Jefferson Starship @ Medina Ballroom – Medina, MN
2/14/16 – AC/DC @ Xcel Center – St. Paul, MN
2/23/16 – Warren Haynes @ Fitzgerald Theatre – St. Paul, MN
2/28/16 – Disney On Ice @ Target Center
2/29/16 – Bruce Springsteen @ Xcel Center
4/9/16 – Marvel Universe Live @ Target Center
4/13/16 – Taj Mahal @ The Dakota – Minneapolis, MN
4/22/16 – The Fab Four @ Medina Ballroom
5/1/16 – The Who @ Target Center
5/4 & 5/5/16 – Paul McCartney @ Target Center
5/14/16 – New Orleans Suspects @ Bunkers – Minneapolis, MN
5/15/16 – New Orleans Suspects @ Ted Booker’s house, MN
5/21/16 – Prairie Home Companion @ State Theatre – Minneapolis, MN
6/14/16 – Paul Simon @ Orpheum Theatre – Minneapolis, MN
6/25/16 – Bad Company/Winery Dogs @ Hinckley Casino – Hinckley, MN
7/9/16 – Dead & Company @ Alpine Valley – East Troy, WI
7/13/16 – Camile Baudoin & Curt Obeda @ Viking Bar – Minneapolis, MN
8/20/16 – Metallica/Avenged Sevenfold/Volbeat @ US Bank Stadium – Mpls, MN
9/2/16 – Garrison Keillor @ State Fair – St. Paul, MN
9/8/16 – Australian Pink Floyd @ State Theatre
9/10/16 – Sammy Hagar/Don Felder @ Wayzata Beach Club – Wayzata, MN
9/29/16 – Dark Star Orchestra @ Skyway Theatre – Minneapolis, MN
10/5/16 – Def Leppard/REO Speedwagon/Tesla @ Xcel Center
10/13/16 – Prince Tribute Concert (w/Stevie Wonder) @ Xcel Center
10/28/16 – Raw Oyster Cult @ house party – Minneapolis, MN
10/29/16 – Raw Oyster Cult @ Bunkers
12/1/16 – Mofro/Parker Millsap @ First Avenue – Minneapolis, MN
12/3/16 – Disney On Ice @ Xcel Center
12/6/16 – Stevie Nicks/The Pretenders @ Xcel Center
12/22/16 – Dumpstaphunk @ Hook & Ladder – Minneapolis, MN
 
And looking forward to 2017, besides the Kris Kristofferson concert I just saw over the weekend I also have tickets for:  Red Hot Chili Peppers, Tesla, Subdudes, Def Leppard/Poison/Tesla, Burton Cummings, Three Dog Night, Neil Diamond, Iron Maiden, Dead & Company, Roger Waters, Billy Joel, and Guns N’ Roses.
 

Friday, January 6, 2017

Harmony In The Hot Tub



It was a normal spring night in the mid-1990’s in Madison, WI.  After dinner I decided to head over to my favorite neighborhood pub, the Harmony Bar.  While living in Madison from 1991-1997 I spent countless hours and dollars in that cool little place hanging out after work with our crew:  Lauren, Mitch, Daddy, Erin & Brad, Bonnie & Clyde, Eric & Cherie, Glenn, and yes…painfully-drunk-in-love-with-Lauren-insecure-annoying-but-occasionally-amusing Marshall.  It is a great local bar with live music on the weekends and it always felt like home.  Besides taking turns buying pitchers of beer into the wee hours of the night, we also spent the time playing pool, shooting darts, filling the juke-box with quarters and talking about the all-important things that twenty-something’s have on their minds like relationships, music, sports and work.  We would get a few hours of sleep, drag ourselves out of bed in the morning and head to WPS, the crappy insurance company that we all worked for.
 
In addition to all the great nights hanging there with my WPS friends, the Harmony has been the backdrop for many other important times in my life.  The night of my first wedding to Lona we went there with my best (wo)man Debbie Hentges to celebrate with a few drinks.  The night before my second wedding to Lona I went there with my buddies Sean and Gary to celebrate with a few too many drinks.  And on August 9th, 1995 when I heard that Jerry Garcia had died…in a state of shock I walked over to my bosses desk, told her I was leaving for the day and drove straight to the Harmony to try and get some semblance of comfort on a horrible day.
 
On this particular night I went alone.  None of my WPS friends happened to be going out that night which was fine because I knew the bartenders well and many of the local clientele.  I liked to refer to the Harmony as my ‘Cheers’, because it’s where “everybody knows your name”.  My favorite waitress Terre Roddy was married to Doc Roddy and the two of them sometimes played music on the small Harmony stage and eventually put out a cd.  Terre wasn’t working that night and their old drunken roommate Bob was absent as well.  The night was relatively young though and I was practicing pool by myself when a nice looking girl walked in with another couple.  I kept playing pool and staring at the single girl.  After ordering drinks and noticing I was alone they came over and asked if they could join me in pool.
 
Sure!  I racked up the balls, told the single girl that we could be partners, and then got introductions.  My new partner was named Mary, and the couple was her sister and her sister’s boyfriend.  We played pool, drank beer and laughed it up for a few hours until close to midnight when I mentioned it was getting late and I had to get up early for work.  Mary and I seemed to be hitting it off and I was trying to come up with a plan to get her back to my house without the other two.  The girls whispered something to each other, and then turned to me and proposed that we move the party over to their house.  It was actually their parent’s house but as per usual they were out of town on business and the house was fully stocked with booze.  Oh yeah, and they also had a hot tub.  “Yes!” I shouted.
 
So we got into our cars and I followed them back to their place, a nice large house a good 15-20 minutes drive away.  I was excited and pulled into the big driveway full of anticipation over what may come.  After hanging out in the living room for a bit the sister jumped up and said we should hit the hot tub!  I remarked that I did not have a bathing suit and she just laughed and proceeded to strip down naked.  Her dude and Mary quickly did the same and ran out the back screen door.  Awesome!  I whipped off my clothes, grabbed my drink and hurried out after them to the hot tub.
 
Before long the other two started making out and Mary grabbed me for the same.  After a bit the couple left hand-in-hand and disappeared into the house.  I told Mary she should show me her bedroom and we headed in as well.  We kissed for awhile but she seemed a bit hesitant, and despite both of us wearing nothing but towels she would not let it go past kissing.  I asked her what was wrong, and nervously looking at the clock (just past 2:00 a.m.) she said that her boyfriend was getting off work shortly and would be coming over.  What?!  Her BOYFRIEND?!!
 
“Later!!” I shouted and ran out of her bedroom, got on my clothes, raced to my car and peeled out of there.  Christ, I did not want another scene like when Heather’s dad walked in on her and I back in high school (see my July 13, 2012 blog entitled ‘Those Mysterious Little Creatures’).  As I drove home I reflected on the night and how totally completely cool it had been, until it had totally completely sucked all of a sudden.  It almost did not seem real and it was a bummer that it ended that way.  It was still a pretty good story to tell the gang the next day at work though, which was only a few short hours away.
 
Now we move forward to almost exactly one year later to the day.  It was a normal spring night and not much had changed in my life.  Once again I found myself alone, in the wonderful Harmony Bar having a beer and shooting pool by myself.  Suddenly in walks a girl with her boyfriend, and another nice looking girl with them.  I stared at the first girl, sure I knew her somehow but not sure why.  She looked at me with the same quizzical face when it hit us at the same time…it was Mary!  I had not seen her since that night!  With the sudden mutual recognition she gave me a big smile and then a quick frown while giving a sideways nod towards her boyfriend.  Was this the same dude who was about to come home and catch us a year ago?
 
I gave a quick nod of understanding and played it cool.  They ordered drinks and then the dude came over and asked if they could shoot pool with me.  Sure!  This would be interesting.  I racked up the balls and told the other girl that we would be partners.  Déjà vu began setting in.  During our introductions and for the rest of the evening I had to pretend I did not know Mary, because yes indeed her dude was the same damn guy from a year ago.  He was okay, but he kept trying to give off the appearance that he was a tough guy, which translated into the fact that he was really just insecure with himself and his relationship.  I suppose that was understandable though given that fact that his girlfriend was obviously a bit slutty.
 
The friend’s name was Sarah.  She was single and really cool and we got along great.  After a few hours of playing pool, drinking and laughing it up until close to midnight I mentioned it was getting late and I had to get up early for work.  My new pool-partner Sarah said maybe we should move the party to Mary’s house.  I had played it pretty cool most of the night without giving away our secret to the dude, but then without thinking I agreed with Sarah and made an enthusiastic remark that we should use the hot tub!  The dude quickly turned to me and asked how I knew about the hot tub??  I fumbled for a second and then said that Mary must have mentioned it last time he was in the bathroom.  He looked at me strangely, but had no choice but to accept my answer.
 
Mary agreed we should head to her place so we got into our cars and I followed them back to her place.  As usual her parents were out of town and her sister was not there either.  It was very strange walking into this same cool house almost exactly a year later.  Obviously the dynamics had changed a bit though and it was weird but fun trying to pretend I had never been there before.  After hanging out for a bit in the living room Mary suddenly stood up and said it was hot tub time.  She took off all her clothes, and the rest of us quickly stripped down as well and followed her out the back door into the tub.
 
More déjà vu.  I was sitting in the exact same spot as I was a year ago, but the girl I had been with then was now across from me instead of next to me.  After a minute or two Sarah starting kissing me and before I knew what was happening she had jumped on top of me and we were having sex.  My eyes slowly closed, dizzy from the beer, the hot water and the excitement from what was happening on my lap.  I opened my eyes just in time to see the annoyed boyfriend grab Mary’s hand and yank her out of the hot tub. As she was being led away she looked over her shoulders and I gave her a wry grin.  She smiled back, somewhat sadly, and then disappeared into the house.
 
After awhile it was again around 2:00 a.m. and again I had get up and go to work in a few hours.  I thanked Sarah for the great night and as I drove home I was now completely bathed in that total feeling of déjà vu.  The whole night had been like a do-over…I’d had almost the exact same night two years in a row.  I reflected on how it had turned out and the absurdity of it all…absurd but awesome.  I credit the magic of the Harmony Bar.  About a year later I started making sure I was at the Harmony every night hoping that lightning would strike again for the third time (maybe just Mary and Sarah would walk in?)…but I never saw Mary or Sarah again.  Ah well…life is good.